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The desire to fit in is directly opposed to the desire to stand out. This is one of the essential human conflicts. We all want attention, to be noticed and acknowledged. Watch any small child and the demands they make on parental attention. It is a banal observation that children who are denied positive attention will seek negative attention in preference to none at all. Loneliness is an expression of how existential the desire for people to see us and respond to us actually is.

We feel invisible when we move through crowds of strangers who pay us no mind. This can be a pleasant experience if it is rare, but for many in our community it fills them with despair and a sense of how utterly unimportant they are. Women, it seems to me, try hard to fit in because they are likely to be punished if they seek to stand out. Women are praised, particularly when young, for being modest, quiet and well behaved. A person who earns such an epithet obeys the conventions of social intercourse. They comply with what is expected, they behave as they should.

The suffix of the term gives the clue. They must distort their actual selves to fit that narrow, rather prim description. It is fragile, transparent, impossibly small and cripplingly uncomfortable. Unlike good girl Cinders, real human women are ugly sisters, forced to cut off parts of themselves to fit the acceptable stereotype. None of us are immune to that pressure.

When I was young, I sought endlessly to be the kind of good girl I saw around me. The girls who were neat and tidy, who always had their desks and pencil cases in good order. The girls who had always done their homework and were the first to be nominated as monitor, class captain and prefect. I never achieved any of those lofty goals. No matter how much I berated myself, no matter how much I was berated by others for being a show off, pushy, and talking-too much it was a constant in Women want sex Caro school reportsI could not defeat my equal and opposite desire to stand out.

Nor my careless, messy, slapdash approach to neatness and tidiness. I did not fit in. My image of myself as is that I annoyed and irritated people. I was not what a little s girl should be and I mourned my lack of likability. I hated primary school. I was a bookish, long-word-using, noisy, cack-handed, un-co child Women want sex Caro a world that worshipped sport, maths and conformity.

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The mental contortions they have made to make themselves fit in are not without cost and they revenge that pain, I think on those who either will not or cannot make the same sacrifices. I was the smallest girl in the class, looking years younger than I was. One of my closest friends was the tallest in the whole school.

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She looked like a fully grown woman. What an odd, Women want sex Caro pair we must have made. In high school — a place where I felt a much greater sense of belonging — I solved my dilemma by meeting up with a bookish outsider like myself. Our friendship it continues to this day not only nurtured us, it made us less threatening.

We were allowed to hover around the edges of the cool group because we posed no threat to anyone else. Friendship is often provisional and transactional among those who are desperate to fit in. Do you help me feel accepted? Or do you make me stick out awkwardly even more? Those who stand out live in dread of being cast out. This fear can last a lifetime.

Even as adult women the desire to fit in remains self-protective. We have watched the women who are determined to stand out and we have seen what happens to them. Our lone female Prime Minister was not immune and investigated for a so called slush fund from her time as a young lawyer.

The scandal faded away completely once she lost office. While she led us, however, we watched her being eviscerated for her effrontery on a daily basis. And we got the message — by refusing to fit in, Gillard put herself beyond the pale. Perhaps that was why, to their credit, American women of colour had no such qualms and supported Clinton so comprehensively. They gave up any hope of fitting in long ago. Women want sex Caro Bishop was a much admired deputy leader of the Liberal Party and foreign minister but she could muster only 11 party room votes when she stood for the top job.

Julia Gillard was a beloved Deputy PM who became a figure of vicious hatred when she toppled — as so many men have done before and since — her Prime Minister. We do not like a woman who stands out. Perhaps this is why women are so quick to deflect compliments and spread any praise onto others. They sense the danger that accompanies any implication that they deserve to be singled out and noticed.

She believes that what we really yearn for as we contort and discipline ourselves to be more like others is to feel we belong. We are herd animals, after all, and our survival is dependent on our connection with one another. Indeed, as our female political leaders have shown, it is hard to belong as a woman in a male dominated world. I have watched young, forthright women experience this lack of belonging when they face off with older, often conservative men on panels or on social media. Many of the men take instant umbrage if their young female opponent voices her disagreement. Perhaps it is unconscious, but men, particularly older men, were brought up to expect all women to defer to them, but especially those who are young.

Her reward, as Yassmin Abdel-Magied discovered after posting a seven word anti-war tweet on Anzac Day, is to risk being cast out. Abdel-Magied was hounded out of the country. This lack of being able to feel we belong may be why Australia has one of the most gender-segregated workforces in the western world.

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Exhibit A is the Federal Liberal Party where we have watched senior women leave the parliament in droves when overlooked for promotion or disendorsed for their seat in favour of a man. Worse, many have left complaining vigorously about a culture of misogynistic bullying. This is annoying for feminists like me, of course, but I believe it is much worse for them. They gave up trying and formed their own outspoken female support group. They formed their own club, or friendship group, to which they could truly belong — despite ructions, debate and differences of opinion.

At its best, it has no interest in conformity or obeying the rules. It exists to support women become more fully themselves, to assert their full and equal humanity, to insist ultimately that women can belong to human society just as they are, just as much as any man.

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Jane Caro is a Walkley Award winning Australian columnist, author, novelist, broadcaster, advertising writer, documentary maker, feminist and social commentator. Caro also writes regular columns in Sunday Life and Leadership Matters. We pay our respects to the Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander ancestors of this land, their spirits and their legacy. The foundations laid by these ancestors - our First Nations Peoples - gives strength, inspiration and courage to current and future generations, both Indigenous and non-Indigenous, towards creating a better Queensland.

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