New in town and looking for fun

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Having lived in Los Angeles all of my life, all of my friends and family were there, and I was starting from scratch. I wondered how an introvert like me would adapt and make new friends in a new city. Here are some of my experiences and tips. I stumbled upon it after I was looking for web development events online. A lot of them seemed to be on meetup.

I started going to these meetup. They had really good career-related content, and were great for networking with other professionals.

New in town and looking for fun

But soon I realized that there were tons of other Meetup events on there too — purely social events. There were groups for people new in town, single people, people who like hiking, and for people who just liked to go to happy hours after work. I ed all of them and started meeting tons of people like myself who were looking for new friends.

The demographics were all over the place — some old, some young, male, female, some new in town, some not. You name it.

New in town and looking for fun

One of the coolest things about Meetup events is that a lot of people are there to meet people, and you know you have something in common whatever topic the meetup group is about. I found that it is much easier to approach and talk to people at these events than at other random events or bars. Of course, before Meetup. These include formal institutions like churches and other religious organizations, or adult-education classes.

There are all kinds of other organizations devoted to things like cleaning up the environment, hiking, playing sports, running, and so forth. Definitely check those out!

New in town and looking for fun

There are also less formal groups. Back in LA, one of the best ways I found to meet people was through my hobby of Swing dancing. After a while, I got to know all of the regulars in the scene, and I made some good friends through it.

There are also huge communities of people who like salsa, ballroom, and tango dancing in every major city. Once you get into one of these scenes, you can pretty much instantly find a group of friends in any major city. Getting into these scenes takes some effort dance lessons but the are really amazing, as far as meeting people is concerned. You just have to look for them. Renaissance Fairs? Historical re-enactment societies? Bluegrass music?

New in town and looking for fun

Go online and look for groups devoted to whatever floats your boat. Another way to meet people and do something good is to volunteer. Shortly after I moved to RI, there were historic floods which damaged a large of homes. I also volunteer at a food bank once a month, in association with my church.

Personally, I am not good at making small-talk, so having some mission to accomplish way for me to interact with people. I am not naturally an outgoing person, and I realized I had to be more proactive to meet new people. I had to push myself to take the first step and introduce myself. Most people want to talk to someone as much as you do! Make an effort to talk to people everywhere regardless of whether you are attracted to them or not.

Be willing to talk to anyone about anything. A random lady was locking up her bike when I stopped to talk to her about bike locks. That is something I would have never have done before! At best, you might be able to meet a new friend. I discovered a magical phrase that always energizes the conversation.

I did a summer internship there! After that, new topics always spring forth. I love learning new things. I found that it really pays off to indulge my curiosity when meeting new people. As you find out more about them, ask them about things they are passionate about.

New in town and looking for fun

People love talking about things they know about. It makes them feel smart. It makes you seem humble and not an arrogant know-it-all. They will like you more for it, because YOU make them feel good about themselves. Some people love talking about their work, while others hate it. Find out what really excites them and ask them about that topic instead. What is an easy dish I can make in fifteen minutes after I come home from work? What your favorite bike path in this area? What is your favorite museum in Boston? People love talking about things they know. Let me give you my example.

In fact, I often had a sour look on my face. I now make an effort to smile and be more approachable all of the time. It takes effort, but no one wants to talk to someone that is frowning or looks mad!

New in town and looking for fun

It really pays off to smile, believe me. Take an honest look at yourself and see what you can improve about your appearance. Let me know about any ideas that have worked for you! Subscribe to my blog to get an when I write a new article, usually fewer than one a month. Address.

New in town and looking for fun

I am a freelance web developer living in Southern California who is interested in technology, living simply, and saving money. I hope this article was useful to you. Please say hi in the comments below! Notify me of follow-up comments by. Notify me of new posts by. This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed. Volunteer Another way to meet people and do something good is to volunteer. Talk to Everyone I am not naturally an outgoing person, and I realized I had to be more proactive to meet new people. Be Curious I love learning new things.

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