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You might be a terrible friend and not even realize it.
That should scare you. Really, it should! You know what? Right now you should be sweating profusely, pacing the floor, and asking yourself whether or not you know how to be a good friend. Sometimes our actions and the words that escape our mouths stop going through a filter. We get so used to our friends that we become insensitive to the things we say and do.
Sure, that level of comfort can be a good thing, but at the same time a lot of ugliness can start leaking out. Check out some of the s below and see how many of these apply to you. Being impeccable with your word is so important. Punctuality is something I used to suck at severely.
But like with all these other lessons, being a good friend requires some effort. So working a little bit harder to be on time is just a necessity of being a good friend. Do you think being an introvert plays a part when it comes to friendships? But, I would think an introvert would have to utilize more will power than an extrovert.
Especially Seriously needing awesome friend it comes to consciously putting in effort to better their relationships. Being introverted definitely plays a factor. Then when we reach for the phone, whether to answer an invitation or form one, we think twice. I totally get that, but once I realized I said no too often I began to start saying yes more.
Very perceptive and highly informative and inspiring post. I was looking for something to help my nieces form friendships … this sure works for adults too. And your responses to peoples comments are very insightful to. Great work. As an introvert myself, I have spent many an hour contemplating what friendship is — what it does — precisely because of my social ineptitude.
Thank you for sharing about introverts. I am one, too. I have been saying yes more and I am so glad. I went to a fun party today. I met some nice people and enjoyed myself. I am recharging now. I am realizing that it is ok to be the way I am, but I just need to push myself a little when I hesitate after an invitation. Thank you for the great insight. In my experience, introverts make much better friends than extroverts.
And not knowing what the hell is going on makes me keep to myself. Tired of thinking, guessing, searching. It does get hard but understand that what goes on in your head is different than what goes on in reality. There are many meditations on the app you will have access to with their monthly fee but if you just want to try it out there is a free basic 10 days.
Hope you get a chance to try it out. That how i felt till i met someone who i came to love. When i realized i loved them it made me want to be more social while at the same time being energized by talking to her. Ari, i asked God for help this morning and He answered by leading me to your July 5, am input on Selfstairway. I relate to every thought, feeling and experience as though we were one and the same.
I firmly believe that God works in mysterious ways. I believe that He sent your story to me and allowed me to realize that I am not alone in my agony.
I am 74 years old and feeling very lost and alone. Everyone in my family except for my yr old son, who is states away and is justifiably involved in his life and family have long passed away for at least 21 years ago. Including my precious husband, Aaron. Thank you profusely for showing me that you are invertibly experiencing my desolation and helplessness both physically and mentally. Again thank you for sharing and in so doing helping others.
I consider you my God given angel. God bless you!! Thanks for elaborating the difference between intro and extrovert. As usual Vincent, you have offered so much wisdom here. What sticks out to me is the fact that many people fail to recognize that there is work involved in building and maintaining a friendship. There has to be an investment from both sides in order for it to work. Hey, Chris. Check out my reply to Kevin. It may help you see things from a different perspective. Sure, I get that introverts will say no sometimes because of the energy thing. I am one, so I completely understand.
Ah, I got you. Laziness is no longer a valid reason. I recently discarded two people from my life for violating 2 on your first list. One was a girl I was dating that counts right? 17 in the second list is also important, but only if it suits you. Never go along with what your friends want if it conflicts with what you believe Seriously needing awesome friend.
It must have been difficult but that tells me a lot about you. It takes guts to do what you did. Oh definitely, Jamie. Your list is fantastic, Vincent, but it also illustrates how difficult it is to find and keep good friends. Fun is an absolute requirement for me. I wish I had read this awhile back. Rereading this article once again — I read it at least once a week so I am able to be Seriously needing awesome friend best friend possible to all the people in my life!
That used to be something that I was horrible at. It stemmed from my then now ificantly improved, but shaky at times self-confidence. If you always feel a need to one up someone it generally stems from the fact that you care what everyone thinks about you. My deepest friendships are often with people who, while we do share some commonalities, are very different from myself.
But those differences must be recognized and respected. I never really cared too much for the argument of whether or not opposites attract.
Opposites work well together just as people who are very similar do. These patterns are attributed to our own personal experiences and observations. Then confirmation bias usually gets the best of us and we conclude it must be true. Just wanted to point out my thoughts on that whole thing. I used to be the high school girl with many friends, and now I am the 40something with very few.
I like it this way as it allows me to be more attentive to my friends. I am also spending a lot less money than I used to just to be out with the crowd. For a good portion of my life, I made friends and hung out with people because it was something to do and because I wanted to have fun. Things changed when I started to value people as individuals and develop mutually supportive, rain-or-shine type friendships. Creating meaningful friendships also took a lot of the pressure of social interaction away because my friendships were built on solid ground and mutual respect.
Awesome knowledge you just shared with us, Scott.Seriously needing awesome friend
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